He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city. Proverbs 16:32 NASB
In relationships, people have different personalities, views, and perceptions of life. Some people are confident about themselves, and they want to be around individuals who have psychological characteristics that meet their approval. They want someone to be loving, kind, honest, empathetic, and trusting. In some relationships, people can be introverts. They have no desire to be around crowds and are very comfortable in the company of few people. In other relationships, people can be extroverts. These individuals embody the “let’s bring everyone along” and “the more the merrier”. Some have a past that brings a lot of baggage, or they may have had the best life. No matter what they bring into a relationship, whether family or friends, all share your space.
In a husband and wife relationship, there is no equality. Someone will always give more than the other person. In many instances, we have different perceptions, and it may seem that your contribution is more valuable than the other person. However, on the other hand, you may be the passive one, who avoids confrontations. It is a battle internally and externally to be able to adjust to a person’s behavior in a relationship. Particularly, when you think that there is mutual understanding.
When occupying the same space, each person must be careful of the energy that they bring. We must check ourselves on a daily basis and examine what we say, how we act, or how we respond to others because it may affect the outcome of the very next minute, hour, day or year(s).
For example, let us suppose that you have tickets to an event that was planned in advance for weeks. On the day of the event, you prepare early in order to avoid any stress. You hoped that this was going to be an enjoyable evening. Yet, you notice that the person attending the event with you is not sharing in your enthusiasm. You can surmise that despite your best efforts, the person is not cooperating. By this time, you realize that you are going to be late for the event. Now you find yourself angry and annoyed. The positive energy that you had in your space is no longer there. It is now filled with anger and contention is everywhere, and an argument ensues.
At times, it can be challenging to regain your composure after your space has been invaded by an inconsiderate person. So, what is the solution to this problem? First, as a wise woman you must pray! You must recognize what is happening, and the shift in your spirit. In that moment, you must decide who will have that much control over changing your attitude. Once you are able to address the situation, you will need to explain to the person that they created this situation by their actions.
Many times we allow people to create an atmosphere that causes us to react. They change the energy in our space. As a result, we become out of control and this alters our place of contentment. The next time you are put into a hostile environment, make the decision to hold on to that non-stressful place. Don’t let other people control your attitude.